Talking to Loved Ones
What should you do if you think that a loved one, friend, or neighbor is suicidal? Taking the time to listen and talk with him or her could mean the difference between life and death.
Listening is key:
- Ask what is bothering him or her
- Be persistent
- Listen without judgment
- Listen without interrupting
DO:
- Ask if the person is thinking about ending his or her life
- Let the person know you care and that he or she is not alone
- Say that depression can be treated and problems can be solved
- Offer to accompany him or her to the doctor or the emergency room
DON'T:
- Argue with the person about or out of suicide
- Say "you have too much to live for"
- Say "you will hurt your family"
Tips to reach out
A kind word can mean a great deal. Here are some tips:
- Stop by an older neighbor's house--especially someone who lives alone or recently experienced a loss.
- Call to check in with old friends and family members, just to say "hello".
- Strike up a conversation with that lonely looking man you see at the pharmacy every week.
- Next: Getting Help
Reviewed by Dr. Maria Llorente, Geriatric Psychiatrist
